"Have you thought about writing your family history, but found yourself stuck from the start? Writing a family narrative can be a daunting task, but Karen Jones Gowen found a way to bring her mother's story to life." (Homespun Magazine)

Friday, March 4, 2011

No, you can't have it all

I've spent nearly my entire life observing people. And this one thing I've learned: you can't have it all. Nobody does. Someone with wealth might have poor health or kids who hate them. Someone with a loving, happy marriage may be childless or penniless. That woman you envy with the perfect body, the perfect hair and beautiful home? She may be desolate in her loneliness. Who knows?  Or her heart may be breaking because her childhood dreams have been shattered.

No one can see behind the closed doors of other people's lives. Why burden oneself with envy,  ingratitude, or the unhappiness that comes with broken dreams and heartaches? Instead, my desire is to be thankful every moment for the privilege of life in all its pain and all its glory. And that's enough for me.


  1. This is lovely, thanks :o)

  2. Interesting I should find you today. Just when it seems everyone has it all but me.
    I need to be more grateful! Thanks for your thoughts.

  3. Agreed!

    Life can't be perfect for anyone, all the time. As you say, something is always missing. We need to be grateful for what we have. I know a few people who torture themselves with what others own that they do not. What a waste.

  4. Theresa, "who torture themselves" good choice of words because living like this for any extended period of time IS torture. Even one day of envy, bitterness and ingratitude makes me feel AWFUL, I can't imagine a lifestyle of this.

    bluepurpleandscarlett, Nice to meet you. I visited your blog, it's beautiful!

  5. I think age has so mellowed me or got me more vain! LOL!! Younger, I wished for all the opposite of me that I wasn't. These days I just think I'm gorgeous albeit could do with a few pounds less..!! LOL! take care

  6. I agree that we can't have it all, but we can each try to make the choices. It's all about choices.

  7. Meant to say that we can each try to MAKE the right choices!

  8. Karen,
    This was beautiful~ We do have to try to see the silver lining and our blessings. It is easy to get swallowed up in pity~

  9. It's really true. No one has it all.

    Re: your comment about Twitter. I'm not planning to spend hours on it each day or I won't get anything else done. But I hope I can understand enough about how it works to enjoy meeting the special people "out there."


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