"Have you thought about writing your family history, but found yourself stuck from the start? Writing a family narrative can be a daunting task, but Karen Jones Gowen found a way to bring her mother's story to life." (Homespun Magazine)

Sunday, August 29, 2010

How Do People Do Stuff?

I've had these questions lately. Like, how does anyone find this blog when I do nothing to promote it and don't follow anyone with this link? Yet 53 people have found me here. Latest is the awesome Elana Johnson *waves to Elana* and so this brings me to other questions.

Like, how do 62 year-old unemployed men with broken knees find suitable jobs? Men like my husband who were in the mortgage business for 25 years and saw their livelihoods disappear with the economic, mortgage-related crash three years ago. He had his own business and we thought he was set for retirement and could work into old age doing what he loved-- helping people with less than perfect credit get home loans. Not any more.

And, how does one woman have a dream about vampires, write a book and become a millionaire? Yet other writers labor for years over much better books and never find a publisher let alone become independently wealthy. How do you hit the jackpot like that? There's no way anyone can plan to make such a thing happen. It's like winning the lottery.

Do you ever wonder how some people have amazingly happy and successful marriages and others struggle to find one single, satisfying relationship? I'm one of those lucky ones and I for the life of me can't tell you the secret to this one. Same with kids. I have 10 awesome, talented and wonderful children, who are growing to adulthood and making me and their dad proud. How did we do this? Don't know, can't tell you.

How do some people stay thin their whole lives,and others struggle to lose even five pounds? Are the thin people more disciplined, or just have better genetic makeup? What's the secret to being thin and healthy? And don't say diet and exercise, because I know skinny minnies who eat candy and watch TV every night. While others are dieting and exercising constantly but can't lose ten pounds.

So is it just me,  or does anyone else wonder how people do stuff? If so, what kinds of things do you wonder about?


  1. Oh I'm so sorry about your husband - I hope he's ok - there is so much comfort with having a great marriage and beautiful kids. Sometimes these are what matters most!

    I guess it's lots of luck and being in the right place at the right time. Also it's lots of hard work that may take decades or the next generation or the next one after that for such hard work to pay off! Or sometimes things conspire against you that no matter how hard working and honest you are circumstances are beyond your control.

    Gosh what deep questions!!

    p.s I love your pic under the "about me".

    Take care

  2. I wonder about the same things all the time. It's fascinating really...

  3. Kitty, My husband will be fine (I hope!) thank you for your well wishes :) And now you know his name because I'm on his computer and this is going up under his email!

    Colette, So glad I'm not the only one LOL. It IS fascinating. And a great mystery. Some people think they know the answers to everything but usually they just haven't lived long enough yet.

  4. It is mystifying, indeed... I don't quite know how people do stuff, as you put it, but I think it has a lot to do with attitude?! If you are slightly unrealistic and optimistic, you should be very happy, according to one of my psychology professors. If I believe that I will be a published author who make lots of money on my books and have a beautiful house and a great partner, I will be much happier than if I thought I didn't. Even if I don't get the things I want, I won't be as miserable as I would be had I counted on not getting them all the time. Does that make sense?

  5. Alexandra, attitude surely has a lot to do with happiness. Slightly unrealistic and optimistic? Wow that's me, which would explain why I'm a very happy person without being very successful in the temporal sense.

  6. Whoa, this is a profound post, Karen. I have a friend who is 55 and was laid off 1 1/2 years ago. This economy sucks for certain industries. I hope your hubby finds something suitable soon. As for the rest, you know I've dealt with weight issues all my life. This time around, I hired a nutritionist and I'm a maniac about eating the way I know I need to eat each and every day. It's the only way I can maintain my weight loss.
    10 children? Oh my God. And they're doing well. You should just sit and pat yourselves on the back, you and hubby. That's so commendable.
    Happiness is an inside job. That's my motto.

  7. Karen, I didn't think it was profound as I wrote out the title LOL, but glad you think so. Maybe it is because these are the type of unanswered questions everyone asks at one time or another.

    Yes sometimes I think about our family and I think, Well haven't I done enough? But I'm driven. I have a drive to "do stuff." I'm not the kind of person who can sit back and let things just happen. I work like I'm just beginning.

  8. I do think, being in the right place at the right time. I know people who are musically gifted and see people in the industry that make me cringe.
    It is exposure, keeping knocking on doors, try, try again; Networking, I guess!

    Thick or thin..it is all about the thyroid. Mine
    is having a battle with my pancreas..they have a love/hate relationship~lol

  9. You crack me up, Karen. I saw the note at the BBQ from the forgotten stepchild over here. This is a cool blog, and different from any others I follow, so I'll be happy to have it in my collection.

    As far as this particular post, it's a good one to drive home the point that while we are free to ponder what "should" happen, we get very little say in what "does" happen. Quite frankly, I'm done trying to figure it all out and am just going to go with it.

    D-d-did you say ten kids? Holy cow, you're even more amazing than I already thought you were!

  10. P.S. Just realized that I called this blog a "forgotten stepchild" when it has WAY more followers than my one an only.

  11. Nicki, LOL haha I'm not offended at all. I just hang out over here when I've had too much of the craziness of the "favorite daughter's" blog.

    Me too, I'm done trying to figure it all out. Heck with that. Let's just go for it! But I do miss the '80's when everything seemed attainable and money flowed like water. You can identify with that, right?


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